The first thing you need to know about us is that we’re just like you. We’re not clinicians, we don’t have degrees in psychology and before this started we had no idea what the functions of behavior were. Like you we read all the books. Most were heartbreaking/heartwarming personal stories. While it’s nice to know that there are people out there who’ve been through it and come out okay, they didn’t answer the burning questions that kept us up at night. How did you get the therapy you talked about? How did you fight to get your kid the help they needed? Where did you go, who did you talk to and what did you say to them? Like most parents in your situation we learned what we know through trial and error but we had one advantage that most never do. We did everything 3 times over. We had the second bite at the apple and a third time to get it perfect. Learn from our mistakes and our triumphs and maybe you’ll lose some sleep over the right reasons like dating and learning to drive.